Do you feel unhappy or stuck in your life? You aren't alone, I too have felt this way on and off throughout my journey. Only to discover that I was disconnected from my true self. If you want to feel free, be happy and have peace in your life. Try these 6 ways to find your true self (freedom).
What Does It Mean To Be Your True Self?
Being your true self means you don't worry about pleasing others; you live without compromising yourself. You live by your own standards or rules, not someone else's.
See parents, community groups, religion, family and friends (society) may have certain expectations of who you should be and how you should live. More important, these expectations can carry a heavy burden and lead you to make decisions based on your head, not your heart. Over time, you can lose your sense of identity and feel unhappy.
How Do You Know If You Are Disconnected?
Everyone's experience differs, for some:
- Don't know your purpose
- Aren't comfortable with who you are
- Your body manifests pain or an ailment to get your attention
- Lack of joy
- Experience more negative thoughts than positive
- Difficulty achieving goals
- Stuck in a job you don't like
- Stay in a relationship that isn't good for you
There are 6 ways to find your true self. You'll need to work at it, but eventually you will achieve self acceptance and become who your meant to be.
Have I found my true self yet? No. But, I am working towards facing my fears and I am getting stronger everyday.
Transforming is like healing, it happens a layer at a time.
6 Ways To Find Your True Self
1. Listen to Yourself & Defy Your Programming
Self reflection is the best way to determine who you are meant to be. You need to find time to be quiet and reflect on your morals, values, passions and core beliefs.
Studies prove that beliefs are created from birth to around 7 years of age; all things we hear, feel or experience are recorded as the “truth” in our subconscious mind. Some of these beliefs or programming may be hindering you from becoming who you are meant to be.
There may have been times you've wanted to make a big change but you felt stuck like it would inconvenient those closest to you or would defy everything you were taught as “normal or right.”
Pay attention to how you make decisions. Are those decisions/choices reflective of your upbringing or your interpretations of what is true? If so, there may be times to defy what feels comfortable.
It sounds cliché but let your heart guide you, it's never wrong!
2. Step Out of The Comfort Zone
Perhaps you've all heard this a time or two. Many people struggle with it because it's scary to walk towards fear and so much easier to stay comfortable. I too have struggled with this but without stepping forward change will not happen. In other words, a huge part of finding yourself is conquering your fears.
Dr. Joe Dispenza explains “you have to leave the comfort zone in order to change.”
Check out the video below it's inspiring!
3. Say “No” If It doesn't Feel Right
Soooo many people say “yes” too often when asked to do things, even though in their heart they want to say “no.” It can be very difficult. Above all, there may be many reasons for this. For me it's a fear of being rejected, discarded, unloved, disappointing someone or fear of conflict. Being true to yourself means you need to push past that fear and say “no” if it doesn't feel right for you.
Don't get me wrong, there is a distinction between doing things you don't want to do (but are necessary) in order to achieve success versus saying yes to hosting a party or donating to a friends cause when you really don't want to. If it happens too often you can become resentful or very unhappy. Thus, a way to be true to yourself is to rustle up the courage to say “no thank you.”
4. Believe In Yourself – Don't Listen To Nay-Sayers
You may encounter nay-sayers along your journey. For example, you want to open a business and you hear “are you crazy? In this economy it's not going to make any money.” Do your best to ignore them or attempt to understand where they are coming from because it's possible they're just projecting their own fears.
Avoid making the same mistake I made of allowing your insecurities to take root and get defensive. Because, if you respond to nay-sayers in a positive way without reacting on your emotions, you may learn something about yourself. Not all criticism is a bad thing. But, there is a difference between constructive criticism and negative criticism.
The truth is if you believe in yourself, you can do anything.
FYI if you want help to change your inhibiting beliefs and improve your life go to How To Change Negative Beliefs.
5. Surround Yourself With Positive, Uplifting People
We adapt to the environment we are in. So, it's best to surround yourself with positive, uplifting people. Their high vibrational frequency or energy, feels really good to be around. Especially, those who are open minded and supportive of your decisions.
Naturally, you're more likely to have the courage to be yourself with a positive influence.
6. Find Your Meditation
Meditation is the oldest and most effective way to connect with your true self, loosen negative emotions and stress. Most important, it provides clarity. Nevertheless, for those that don't prefer this practice there are other forms of meditation. The idea is to free the mind and feel blissful.
My cousin rides her bike every night for at least 20 km. It's her release and way to connect with herself and let the stresses of the day slip away. For others, like my uncle Fred it's running. I asked him when I was a young girl why he had to run everyday. He said, “I was born to run, it's my release to let go of everything.” At the time, I was too young to understand what he meant.
But now I do! Attempt to find something (a passion) that allows you to free yourself without compromise for at least 30 minutes a day. Part of finding your true self is pursuing your passions.
How Do You Know When You've Become Your True Self
- You feel free
- Have a sense of knowing
- Your body is healthy
- Less negative thoughts
- You pursue your passions
- Inner peace
Experiences may change your identity over time. Stay authentic and true!
Wishing you love and wellness.
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